In popular TV Shows such as "Gossip girl" and "Weeds" which have had a strong impact on youth pop culture, threesomes have been a real topic of conversation for the couples. Research indicates that an increasing number of people have tried threesomes. In 2013, out of 5,000 men and women interviewed in Hong Kong, London, Moscow, New York and Sao Paulo, 20% (1 in 5), admitted to having a threesome at least once. Another survey by Archives of Sexual Behaviour found that 4 out of 5 men and 1 out of 3 women would like to do engage in a threesome.

 Sex therapist Vanessa Marin suggests the conversation to be along the lines of; "Love, I just read an article about threesomes, what do you think? Is that something you could do?" This is because, putting it down as a remote but existing possibility, like a fact of habit, will make your partner feel more comfortable and less hostile.

One of the biggest objections to threesomes is usually that it will become an addiction and after the first threesome more will be craved and indulged in, finally leading to wanting to realize all fantasies, degenerating into perversion. According to sex blogger Karley Sciortino, in most cases threesomes are isolated episodes, linked to an evening of too much drinking or an attempt at reviving the relationship.

To indulge in a practice that your partner does or doesn't like? To revive your relationship? To have sex with someone of the same sex? To make your old fantasy come true? Simply because it's fun? Threesomes have a higher chance of success if the goals are common.

This is perhaps the most delicate and complex task. Setting up a threesome is an art, like organizing a dinner party. One too many or the wrong guest and the whole atmosphere is compromised. According to sexologist Emily Morse, it would be ideal to find a single person in your group of friends with whom you are not yet too familiar and who is particularly open to the idea. Talk to them about it and then create the conditions, including the idea of a little alcohol to release the inhibitions.

The couple must at least first decide together what is acceptable and what is not. From penetration to oral sex to kisses to sleeping together, relying on chance is dangerous since violent jealousy could arise at any moment: "You gave her cunnilingus and I didn't!" or "You told me you wouldn't kiss her!". As a couple, clearly establish the mutual boundaries and then communicate them to your invited party, reminding yourselves that they are not an object placed there for your own satisfaction, but a person with their own inclinations. Always make sure that the intended third party is involved in the organization phase, to ensure they do not feel left out.

Depending on the degree of mutual knowledge and taste, it is essential to clarify in advance on the method of protection that will be used. Condoms, Coitus Interruptus or Unprotected Penetration are all methods that need to be considered. For condoms, multiple parties mean that there will be a requirement of a sufficient number of condoms available. Coitus interruptus requires clear communication regarding the timing and the course of action to follow. Unprotected penetration is not advised especially with the third party. However, if this is the chosen course of action, screening is advised prior to the event. 

Dr. Marin advises couples not to overthink regarding threesomes. Additionally, they should not expect the threesome to revolutionize the relationship. Your relationship will not end there, nor will it be the turning point you have been waiting for. The threesome is just a fantasy that takes shape and can last once or be repeated over and over. Couples should not give threesomes more importance than it has. The only real advantage of threesomes is that it introduces new dynamics of play, inclusion and experimentation in an otherwise "traditional" couple. 

The ideal condition to avoid problems, jealousies and recriminations is when all three parties are single, in which case we recommend three-way sex between friends, but not too much.

Threeway play is definitely more interesting, albeit a little complex. Penetration and annalingus can occur simultaneously for him or double penetration for her. The whole experience may be devoid of penetration, but still result in a phantasmagorical oral sex session. In any case, never forget, in order: condoms, water lubricant and/or anal lubricant, massage oil and/or kissable for the body. And then, depending on the degree of complexity and involvement, bondage accessories, anal toys, vibrators, clitoris suckers and dildo strap ons. However, hygienic practices should be maintained throughout the play session.             

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